First
of all, this is my 260th blogpost. I am so glad to have touched this milestone.
I never had any idea when I started blogging, that I would reach here with more
than 1.5 lakh pageviews! I feel so happy to be doing what I do.
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Today I
will talk about 'moving on'. This means different to different people. For some
it can mean that after you end a relationship, give yourself some time, and
then move over back to any of your old 'ex' or some new person. Or for some it
can mean - try as much to save a relation, if it doesn't work, accept that you
do not have a forever with some people and things are not going to change, then
you try to stay happy in the happiness of the person you loved and decide to
give your entire life for that person, because you know you can never
emotionally invest the same with anybody else ahead.
Basically,
everyone is different and everyone copes with different things in different
ways.
For the
people belonging to the first category, it may be a regular routine to get over
somebody and 'move on'. But the second category, abides by all the promises
they made during the relationship and stick to the fact that - "I have no
future with anyone except that one person who is now gone. And it's okay. I can live alone." What breaks these people who
dwell on relationships for long is when the person for whom they are ready to
sacrifice is the fastest to move on.
The first
category of people move on for different reasons - they cannot handle
loneliness and want to fill that space ASAP or they are too weak and want a
shoulder to cry on or maybe even for their physical needs or parental pressure.
Some people can be cold and heartless. Such kind of people never really
invested emotionally in you. Often these kind of people do not want to wallow to
the pain and sulk, hence rebound, and options are easily available in a digital
world like ours nowadays.
The
speed in which a man moves from a breakup to a new amorous attachment is
directly proportional to the pain he's feeling -- the deeper the hurt, the
quicker the hook up. So if you see your ex in the arms of another within days
of your breakup, remember 'IT'S STILL OKAY, though not justified.
It is his/her way of coping with it - however cheap a way to mend the broken
heart.' With that understanding in place, it is perfectly reasonable to go home
and cut his/her head out of all the photos of him/her you own, and incinerate
them in your barbecue. *winks*
Here's
the 12th Nano Fiction. Happy reading.
The heart is fickle, I guess, where we look to be emotionally secure. Very aptly said, Aayesha:)
ReplyDeleteTrue, Vishal. But I personally feel, once you lose the 'connect' you had with a specific person, you lose it forever and you become incapable of re-creating that magic with anybody else, however tempting it may be!
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