Being a
strong, independent woman means that you are able to find happiness on your
own. You have self-confidence without having to rely on another person or
society for validation. It means emotional independence and learning to express
who you are at your core.
Nevertheless,
strong, confident women also, at some point wish for a man who is all giving; they want the door held open for them, a
shared umbrella, an invitation to a date planned and paid for by the man in
their lives.
A
woman’s four basic needs are security, affection, open communication, and
leadership. Every woman has a need to feel secure. This need derives from a
basic human need for safety, security, and stability. To some, it’s financial
security, to others it’s emotional security, and to others it’s physical
security.
Women want
to feel understood. Women's thought lives are like computers, with
multiple windows open and processing all at once. Unlike men who can only
process one thing at a time, women are constantly juggling multiple thoughts
and emotions all at the same time.
Women
want to feel emotionally secure. Women want security. Yes,
financial security is important, but it comes second to emotional
security. Women do think about the house, bills, laundry, but feeling
emotionally connected and close to the man in their lives; and knowing he is
there for her, no matter what, is what really matters.
Women
want to feel listened to. Men, she doesn’t want you to fix it, she just
wants you to listen. Women want to feel beautiful. She needs to
know, deep within, that you find her beautiful and that you only have eyes only
for her. There may be many mirrors in your home, but the mirror that
means most to your wife is you.
To
build an ideal home is difficult. It's never easy. It must be challenging and
many obstacles along the journey.
But, a
perfect mixture of independence with security helps a long way.
