Life And Wrong Choices

Writing liberates me of pent up emotions. Today's post is going to be a bit of ranting with a bit of muft gyaan. ;)

 I saw an old couple walk past me, today.

The man was older than her,

I guess it because he walked too slowly and had more grey hair than her.

The women slowed her pace and matched his footsteps.

They honestly brought tears of happiness in my eyes, ask why?

How fortunate is such kind of love?

I imagine the many times they have had fights too, but dealt with everything, 

A love that never gives up on each other, is always intact!

And every being on this planet deserves a love like this, I thought.

And if someone doesn't love you this way, please let them go!

You see, the people who do not choose you daily, can do without you as well.

Some people are just cold enough to replace you with other people. The world is full of weird, ungrateful people. "Never mind," Mother Teresa said! Give them their comfort and let them be happy. Time is the best teacher and God always has bigger plans for all.

Let your relationship be such that one day, when another girl, like me, passes by you both, she smiles at you with tears of joy.

Be with someone who you don't have to beg to, to have you in their lives.

People WILL come, promise and people WILL leave. That's life!

But when you see old couples, it strengthens your belief that maybe one day, there will be someone who refuses to give up on you too, despite every damn thing. That person should only affect you and your well-being. That person is worth the keep.

You should do all it takes to save a relationship, with anyone for that matter, up to a certain extent. But once you realize, they are not interested to improve things, you better know your answer. There is no good in investing in cold people and dead relationships, ever.

Value your life and grow happiness around you. Keep people around you happy. What goes around, comes around. At times you WILL realize, some people are not going to give you even the half of good you gave them. It's alright. Life has to go on! 

Because, now you will realize how incomplete you were even after being with them, when you see an old couple walking hand in hand, supporting each other at each step. Some of us are unlucky in loving cowards, because they will always run away when tough times crop up. The best thing they do is, teach you how to live without them and trust me, the show goes on. Nothing stops, like the way you thought would. The world doesn't care. That reminds me of the song, "Kehne ko sath apne ek duniya chalti hai, par chupke iss dil mein tanhayi palti hai." (Blame my filmy self)

Oh even that one, from Page 3: "Kitne ajeeb rishtey hai yahan pe, do pal milte hai, saath saath chalte hai, jab mod aaye toh bach ke nikalte hai!"

When your tears don't move the person you are shedding them for, when your ill health doesn't disturb the person you love, please understand, it is one sided love, which will never bring you any stability. Spare yourself of unnecessary suffering. Stability is in the old couple I saw today. 

If you are struggling today, just do away with the issue that pricks you like a mental thorn, don't let it bother you.  Life will twist you and make you realize, the people you put on a pedestal do not really deserve to be there.

Staying alone sometimes is far better than wrong choices.

On the other hand, the positives: Wrong choices don't always bring you sadness. Be grateful for the nice things it got along and be content with the lesson it taught you. We can make our lives a lot easier if we understand the fact that our time with certain people is limited. If your time with a certain person is over, let it be, let it go. Don't be too hard on yourself. Go with the flow. In life, one thing leads to another, remember. 

It is perfectly okay to not know all the answers in life, right away. It will be revealed to you when you are ready and when it is best for you to know! Don't give someone the privilege to rent a useless space in your mind and heart. They hurt you because you let them. All the sufferings in the world can end only if YOU wish to cease them.

Forget yesterday, because it has already forgotten you. Stay happy, smile more often and be happy to be breathing, right now! And see, it does magic! It flips all the bad things to good and now life seems to be content. Value yourself enough to save yourself from wrong choices. Life is a balance sheet and in the end there always is profit and everything tallies!

P.S:

1.  Just a random assertion, I appreciate women who save themselves.

2. I just read The Bombay Times today and guess what! Pyar Ka Punchnama 3 will be made from a women's perspective! I am excited :D

3. I am going to promise myself to invest more time in my baby blog now on. More posts to go live from time to time! 

4. Time to be happy is now, place to be happy is here! Don't postpone your happiness.

5. We must learn who is gold, and who is simply gold plated!

6. I know I can be a bhashan giver, I am a professor anyway! I loooove to rant.. *winks* But.. But.. I would secretly love to be a motivational speaker one day, inspiring people to be happy! :)

Your Partner Is Your Fan For Life!

Yesterday, I heard Bruce Dickinson talk. He said many, many things worth idolizing. He was talking on how we should convert customers to fans on our blogs. 

The way he pointed out the difference between a customer and a fan simply left me amazed. It taught me something that I shall never forget for the rest of my life.

I am 23, I do mistakes. I get restless and take quick decisions. I regret later, at times. But with people like Bruce Dickinson who leave you with beautiful insights about life, there's so much to learn.

I say many a things when I am angry to people I love. But women hardly mean what they say, when they are angry. This will resonate only with the women, I am sure. Men would just find this statement as a clarification and a dumb reason.

He said, "A customer always has the freedom to walk away from your shop. He just glances at your stuff, if he doesn't like it, he walks off. But a fan, is loyal. Fans are committed to you. Just like your life partner. Your life partner is a permanent fan, not a customer."

A take away I got from this quote was, always be grateful to your partner for accepting you and loving you the way they do. Because they commit to you. And commitment, is a scary word. Not all appreciate its beauty.

He added, "You don't immediately divorce your partner after a fight, you try to make it work somehow. Because they are your fans - lifelong fans."

If there's real chemistry between you two, don't give it up for anybody, because awesome things don't happen often in life.

I learned my lesson, because blame it on my young age, I am always looking for instant solutions for problems in my life. And yes, after taking grave, big decisions I land myself in more painful trouble, sometimes. At testing times, we all become rigid and conclude things, leave no scope for discussion or knowing the view of the other person, it possibly could be that there is another aspect of reality, you are unaware of.

Sometimes, we spoil the beautiful kaleidoscope of our own life with our own hands. So, moral of the story, to cut it short, take a stand, live with who you want to be, stay loyal and work for what and who you really want in your life.

Things do reach a crunch point, but life always tests you. And relationships are always put through trials.

But remember, conclusions are for scientists, you and me are regular people. What troubles us today, attracts us tomorrow.

To be honest, there is a coward in each one of us. To lose the people and things we utterly love. Make your relationships matter and do what it takes to keep them intact and beautiful. Always talk and discuss what troubles you, with your partner. When you're not ready to hear them out, that kills half the charm of your relationship.

Take blame for the wrong you did, say sorry, you do not become small. But never let your permanent fan walk away. It will be a serious loss. 

For a few imperfections, do not ever forget the amazing countless things your partner did for you in the past. Remember, when they brought you medicines when you were unwell? They skipped office to visit you? Remember, when they fed you with their own hands? They didn't need to do that, yet they did. Remember all the sweet names they called you? Remember, when they didn't have a look at their wallet and bought you all that you set your eyes on? Remember when you both said that you are the light in each other's dark lives? Whatever happened to that now? 

Remember when they encouraged you to do all that you love and were happy in your achievements? Remember, remember, they agreed to gobble your burnt rotis too? Remember they never lied to you, about even the tiniest of thing? Remember the way they wipe sweat off your face?

Accept it, you get the taste of heaven when with them. You live your fairytale with them. People may come people may go, seasons may come seasons may go but your love for them will never diminish.

Your partner becomes your CNS, your support system. You may become over confident for a while and say, you can do without them, but the fact is you cannot. Only when you are away from them, you realize their importance as tears trickle down your cheeks.

Never take your fan for granted. Your partner may be a person of few words, little gestures, and simple surprises, but that fills your black & white life with colors.

Never ignore the "fan" who always cares about you, nags for your safety. Because one day, you will push them so far away, that it would be difficult to trace them back.

Just like a fan decides whether an artist's work is a hit or a flop, your life long fan decides your mental and physical well-being. Even if you're angry with the person who means the world to you, take a moment, ponder, see past your memories and decide, "Is he/she worth letting go? Can your life ever come back to where it was before them?" You will always get a reply from within you, "Love deserves a second/third..../infinite chance!"

In today's generation too, there are few people who love with all they have. They are left empty, damaged and shallow when a relationship fails. And at times, you feel you can damage your self-respect too in loving a few people, but then you realize if they loved you back, they would never put you in that dilemma. 

When they say, "I'll always be with you, no matter what." Some people really mean those words. Don't let them go! Respect your fan-for-life, dignify them and their rights and never give up if you have found something you never found in anybody else earlier.

A message to self: Learn to control your anger and disgust. That's what careless words do. They make people love you a little less. 

I am always afraid of losing people who love me, because I never had a long list of such people anyway! They say everyone you lose is not a loss, but they never tell you, these are all cooked up words, a particular loss is all lost, because that is all you ever had. One day, you realize you are not a robot to wash all the beautiful memories, pictures and walk past clean. You are marked with a person's love and it gets impossible to move ahead without that person.

I hear so many love stories that die young. Don't let your love die a slow death. Because with it, hope, dreams and all your plans die too. Many a times, when we observe the other person doesn't love us the way we wish, we feel they don't love us at all. Having that one person to love all your life gives a  sense of purpose.

If you fall for every second person, that is not Love. It is love when whatever happens, there is this one person you cannot simply get out of your mind and heart and you then know, you're their fan forever. A partner is a fan, a promise that you'll have a friend forever.

Marriage box is an empty box, love is filled in by the people, the companionship between them. Always cherish the time you spend with your loved ones, you never know which is going to be your last outing or the last lunch. Life is short.

And I don’t even know if these words could ever justify my sincerest gratitude to a few people I truly, truly love. I love you from your head to your toes, to every part of you. I love you for your flaws, your imperfections.

The singular purpose of my life is to absorb the riches of your love and give you more love in return. The silent sad poetry that throbs in my chest cannot be uttered in three little words—or 3,000 for that matter. Whenever I try to describe the way I feel for you, every word seems trite and hollow; the whole English language insufficient. In a universe of infinite possibilities, on a planet of seven billion human beings, I want you. And I would give my life for you, whenever you ask for it. I can bleed my heart just to see you smile. I will love you till the end of days.

With a little poetry, I conclude this post..

"He is my world,

My world is blessed,

Millions of stars out there,

But I am settling with the sun,

Brightest of them all,

Home is where my fan is,

Or else I'm homeless.

You complete me,

Like a set of puzzle,

Like 2 pieces of lego,

Like a pen and its top,

Like shoe and laces,

Like a child loves his favourite person,

Like a bee loves a flower,

Like a mouse loves cheese,

You unlock a whole new world for me."

P.S: This is in response to Indispire Edition 89.

write about your true love, it can be a person, place, thing, activity, anything. Something/someone that makes you feel special, complete in life. #truelove #truelove

Book Review #50 : VoiceMates

Author: Anamika Mishra

Publisher: Jaico Publishing House
Pages: 202

If you like to watch reality shows that fulfill the dreams of many aspirants and are a ray of hope for many passionate people, you will find this novel interesting. Indian reality shows like Indian Idol, etc have given us some really good singers too. I have seen so many reality shows on TV but I have hardly read a book written on reality show journey and its experience.

The cover of this book is excellent. I would like to congratulate Anamika for writing such a brilliant novel. The twists and turns in the story gave me thrills and chills.

Voicemates gives an insight of how reality shows are executed. Then, the dark side of reality shows; what a girl feels when she wants to be something else but her parents wants her to study, the fear of taking risk, the first taste of success and then the failure, lots of emotions in one novel.

If you have a dream and passion for a thing, don't ponder and sit, stand up and take every step to achieve that goal. That's what the novel propagates. Dreams are what make us. So dream big, dream high.

The plot surprises the reader. The book has so much to offer more than just romance. The message of ‘you win some – you lose some’ shines throughout the pages!

Anamika Mishra has done a very good job of narrating the story in a way that intrigues the readers. The writing is exceptionally smooth and never boring where you would feel the music, the irony, the contradictions, the joy of living and the boundless love for all forms of beauty. The reality show setting in the backdrop adds to the entertainment factor.  'VoiceMates' is a very clever title chosen by the author!

VoiceMates by Anamika Mishra is the story of young aspiring singers struggling with their first successes but also with the first disappointments, the first obstacles and the music thus becomes a metaphor for love and life itself with every little achievement requires commitment, hard work and determination. Not only for dreams and passion, but this story also teaches about family bonding and love relationships. 

Surprisingly, for me, the ending was the best part even though it is not what you would have expected. I loved the little twist and how the book ended with hope.

Glad to know that Indian authors are now picking up subjects that have not been used before. This book is India's first novel written on International duet singing reality show. All in all, VoiceMates is a musical roller coaster ride which will leave you inspired and motivated! I recommend this book to everyone who wants to do something in life.

Rating:  4/5 for being so refreshing!

P.S: I received the book for review from The Readdicts

Real Togetherness

Real togetherness is about breaking free from the tight clutches of our smart phones/tabs and building relationships with people around.

Nowadays, the digital world we have created around ourselves is so powerful, that although we are always online, we rarely connect deeply with the people in real world.

The kids these days are so busy learning and adapting to new gadgets day by day, that they are moving far away from nature as well as their parents and siblings.

I feel, children nowadays are losing their golden days of childhood and simply becoming couch potatoes and gadget addicts.

Nature can help children be active, bring the family closer and together as well.

From  toddlers to school age kids, all love adventures. This fact can be well utilized to experience real togetherness with nature.

Involving natural resources, playing in the middle of woods, etc. require direct interaction with nature which is highly beneficial for the kids.

Outdoor experiences with nature help children also realize their responsibilities towards the environment.

Urging children to plant saplings is another way, you as parents can spend quality time with them, and they also learn the importance of this activity in due course of time.

You can take your kids for botanical activities in parks and show them the types of plants, flora - fauna we have around us.

Real togetherness is when you don't have to look at your mobile phone every now and then, when you don't have to pretend to be busy listening to music when in company of a certain set of people, and so on!

All such activities help develop curiosity and delight in the minds of your children and helps them evolve better.

Children are born with an affinity towards nature. As a family, being close to nature is a way of rejoicing the greatest gift from God - Life.

Mother Nature is lyrical in its existence that helps keep everyone together.

You can enjoy the rains with your little ones, and so many other blessings, Mother Nature bestows us with and at the same time make it a learning experience for your kid. Double benefits it reaps, believe you me!

Many a times, our kids demand for 5 more minutes with us and because of our hectic lives, we do not agree on it. So, today, give your kid that extra 5 minute play time with you and with Mother Nature at the park and see the difference it creates!

Life is very uncertain, a moment lost is lost forever. Before it is gone, cherish it with your loved ones. It is all about making time and experiencing the real meaning of togetherness!

Kissan has this really cute ad film, which actually made me realize how far we have walked away from our loved ones into the digital world. Go have a look at the lovely ad and tell me your views on it!

This topic is about Kissan India. Check here: http://www.kissanpur.com/.

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#YouMakeMeSmile

I am so much into him.

He gives me those fabled trembling knees, heart-in-my-mouth, butterflies-in-my-belly moments.

At times, when I see him after days, I can't much locate my brain and voice and I simply watch him over quitely.

*Ever, wondered when you look at someone, "Oh, I really love this man. He is so ordinarily extraordinary? Beautiful in the ordinary things he does."*

I blush furiously when we do funny lovely things together! He has the effect on me that no one ever had!

He is my sunshine. He knows it very well how to make me un-mad when I am super mad.

We are often so ungrateful to our spouses and fail to see the good they do.

Men maybe less expressive, but when they love you, they have their own ways to cradle us in love.

My husband is the one who brings a smile on my face in the brightest as well as the roughest times. 

He is my sur, taal, he is my whole damn happy song. He is my strength, my solace. #YouMakeMeSmile

P.S: This is an imaginary post written in response to Indispire Edition 86.

"That one person who's smile brings smile at your face in roughest of the times #YouMakeMeSmile"

Book Review #49 : Pupil’s President

Blurb:

The students’ diligent teacher, the nation’s gifted scientist, the humble ‘People’s President’ - an indefinable name he is. Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam. A man who dedicated his life and work to the betterment of a nation, and his time and energy to the billions of young minds he wished to ignite. He has left back dreams in everyone, and the undying inspiration to make those dreams come true. A surfeit of contents has been interwoven to give this book a shape. To read through the pages will mean a journey through his life in entirety. Besides Kalam’s own speeches and quotes, it also contains literary tributes by scientists, academicians and students, the interviews of his family members, and a real-time anecdote of his interment ceremony at Rameswaram. This isn’t just a tribute, but a world beyond it to be read, explored and discovered.

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A child from a small village, poor family backdrop, who supports his family by selling newspapers makes it big and becomes the President of India! Why? Because, he always had the desire to learn and know new things. He always dreamt big, no matter what. He became a scientist and eventually India’s President too. He made many people realize the power of dreams. Dr A.P.J Abdul Kalam, he is.

This man dedicated all his life for the betterment of the nation and continues to inspire so many people! His contribution to nuclear science is well known to the whole country. He was a part of various committees and headed many.

His contribution and vision to science made a huge difference in the development of our country.

The cover of the book has A.P.J Abdul Kalam sir’s picture and the book demands your attention. This book relives his journey as a scientist, leader, contributor, teacher, author. His simple life is described.

He loved sharing knowledge and teaching children. His life and quotes both serve as a huge inspiration for all of us.

This book is very well written, with easy to understand language. It ignites your dreams and inspires you to strive harder to achieve your goals.

As you browse through the pages, you feel you are actually having a watch over Kalam sir’s entire life. A very well shaped book.

Besides Kalam sir’s own speeches and quotes, this book also contains literary tributes by scientists, academicians and students, the interviews of his family members, and a real-time anecdote of his interment ceremony at Rameshwaram. This book isn’t just a tribute, but a world beyond it to be read, explored and discovered, truly.

Dr A.P.J Abdul Kalam has been an inspiration for me. Without any doubts, I totally recommend it to everyone who wants to stay inspired and motivated always! The book is worth it!

Recommended for the people who enjoy biographies. A.P.J Kalam is someone you would really enjoy knowing up, close and personal.

Rating – 5/5

P.S: This review is for b00k r3vi3w

Book Review #48 : The Curse of Brahma

                                                                        Author: Jagmohan Bhanver

Genre: Mythological Fiction

Publisher: Rupa

Pages:378

Price: 295 INR

This book is the story up to Krishna's birth. The story that led to it. The backstory of why Kansa, who dearly loved his sister Devki, underwent such a drastic change and what tricked him to think that way. 

The book is informative and has a catchy cover too. I never knew there was such story behind Krishna's birth which backtracked to a very long time ago, almost 200-years before the birth, started by a curse given by Brahma.

Though the book is a part of Krishna Trilogy, the main character of the first book is not the witty lord. The book is about the fate and about our choices who in turn, decide our fate. It is a book which will arise question in your mind. Is the evil really evil? Is the good really good?? It stresses upon the fact that, the thing which is evil to us, may not be evil to some one else. The matter of good or bad lies on one’s perspective.

The language used is good. Reader-friendly. The narration, however, needs spicing up, or maybe some cut-shorting. It needs to be trimmed to remove various unnecessary parts.

Writing a short story with vividness that it drags it to almost 400-pages thick, is a disappointment. Took a lifetime for me to complete it.

Jagmohan Bhanver is superb in his first fiction. However, I do have to comment that the book is tiring and confusing in the long monologues of various characters. Even the storyline sometimes get confusing when too many characters are giving their own perspectives.

Anyone interested in mythology, this is the book for you!

Rating - 3/5

P.S: This review is for b00k r3vi3w