Yesterday,
I heard Bruce Dickinson talk. He said many, many things worth
idolizing. He was talking on how we should convert customers to fans on
our blogs.
The way
he pointed out the difference between a customer and a fan simply left me
amazed. It taught me something that I shall never forget for the rest of my
life.
I am
23, I do mistakes. I get restless and take quick decisions. I regret later, at times. But
with people like Bruce Dickinson who leave you with beautiful insights about
life, there's so much to learn.
I say
many a things when I am angry to people I love. But women hardly mean what they
say, when they are angry. This will resonate only with the women, I am sure.
Men would just find this statement as a clarification and a dumb reason.
He
said, "A customer always has the freedom to walk away from your shop. He
just glances at your stuff, if he doesn't like it, he walks off. But a fan, is
loyal. Fans are committed to you. Just like your life partner. Your life
partner is a permanent fan, not a customer."
A take
away I got from this quote was, always be grateful to your partner for
accepting you and loving you the way they do. Because they commit to you. And
commitment, is a scary word. Not all appreciate its beauty.
He
added, "You don't immediately divorce your partner after a fight, you try
to make it work somehow. Because they are your fans - lifelong fans."
If
there's real chemistry between you two, don't give it up for anybody, because
awesome things don't happen often in life.
I
learned my lesson, because blame it on my young age, I am always looking for
instant solutions for problems in my life. And yes, after taking grave, big
decisions I land myself in more painful trouble, sometimes. At testing times, we all become rigid
and conclude things, leave no scope for discussion or knowing the view of the
other person, it possibly could be that there is another aspect of reality, you
are unaware of.
Sometimes,
we spoil the beautiful kaleidoscope of our own life with our own hands. So,
moral of the story, to cut it short, take a stand, live with who you want to
be, stay loyal and work for what and who you really want in your life.
Things
do reach a crunch point, but life always tests you. And relationships are
always put through trials.
But
remember, conclusions are for scientists, you and me are regular people. What
troubles us today, attracts us tomorrow.
To be
honest, there is a coward in each one of us. To lose the people and things we
utterly love. Make
your relationships matter and do what it takes to keep them intact and
beautiful. Always talk and discuss what troubles you, with your partner. When
you're not ready to hear them out, that kills half the charm of your
relationship.
Take
blame for the wrong you did, say sorry, you do not become small. But never let
your permanent fan walk away. It will be a serious loss.
For a
few imperfections, do not ever forget the amazing countless things your partner
did for you in the past. Remember, when they brought you medicines when you
were unwell? They skipped office to visit you? Remember, when they fed you with
their own hands? They didn't need to do that, yet they did. Remember all the
sweet names they called you? Remember, when they didn't have a look at their
wallet and bought you all that you set your eyes on? Remember when you both
said that you are the light in each other's dark lives? Whatever happened to
that now?
Remember when they encouraged you to do
all that you love and were happy in your achievements? Remember, remember, they
agreed to gobble your burnt rotis too? Remember they never lied to you,
about even the tiniest of thing? Remember the way they wipe sweat off your
face?
Accept
it, you get the taste of heaven when with them. You live your fairytale with
them. People may come people may go, seasons may come seasons may go but your
love for them will never diminish.
Your
partner becomes your CNS, your support system. You may become over confident
for a while and say, you can do without them, but the fact is you cannot. Only
when you are away from them, you realize their importance as tears trickle down
your cheeks.
Never
take your fan for granted. Your partner may be a person of few words, little
gestures, and simple surprises, but that fills your black & white life with
colors.
Never
ignore the "fan" who always cares about you, nags for your safety.
Because one day, you will push them so far away, that it would be difficult to
trace them back.
Just
like a fan decides whether an artist's work is a hit or a flop, your life long
fan decides your mental and physical well-being. Even if you're angry with the
person who means the world to you, take a moment, ponder, see past your
memories and decide, "Is he/she worth letting go? Can your life ever come
back to where it was before them?" You will always get a reply from within
you, "Love deserves a second/third..../infinite chance!"
In
today's generation too, there are few people who love with all they have. They
are left empty, damaged and shallow when a relationship fails. And at times,
you feel you can damage your self-respect too in loving a few people, but then
you realize if they loved you back, they would never put you in that
dilemma.
When
they say, "I'll always be with you, no matter what." Some people
really mean those words. Don't let them go! Respect your fan-for-life, dignify
them and their rights and never give up if you have found something you never
found in anybody else earlier.
A
message to self: Learn to control your anger and disgust. That's what
careless words do. They make people love you a little less.
I am
always afraid of losing people who love me, because I never had a long list of
such people anyway! They say everyone you lose is not a
loss, but they never tell you, these are all cooked up words, a particular loss
is all lost, because that is all you ever had. One day, you realize you are not
a robot to wash all the beautiful memories, pictures and walk past clean. You
are marked with a person's love and it gets impossible to move
ahead without that person.
I hear so many love stories that die young. Don't
let your love die a slow death. Because with it, hope, dreams and all your
plans die too. Many a times, when we observe the other person doesn't love us
the way we wish, we feel they don't love us at all. Having that one person to
love all your life gives a sense of
purpose.
If you
fall for every second person, that is not Love. It is love when whatever
happens, there is this one person you cannot simply get out of your mind and
heart and you then know, you're their fan forever. A partner is a fan, a
promise that you'll have a friend forever.
Marriage
box is an empty box, love is filled in by the people, the companionship between
them. Always cherish the time you spend with your loved ones, you never know
which is going to be your last outing or the last lunch. Life is short.
And I
don’t even know if these words could ever justify my sincerest gratitude to a
few people I truly, truly love. I love you from your head to your toes, to every
part of you. I love you for your flaws, your imperfections.
The
singular purpose of my life is to absorb the riches of your love and give you
more love in return. The silent sad poetry that throbs in my chest cannot be
uttered in three little words—or 3,000 for that matter. Whenever I try to
describe the way I feel for you, every word seems trite and hollow; the whole
English language insufficient. In a universe of infinite possibilities, on a
planet of seven billion human beings, I want you. And I would give my life
for you, whenever you ask for it. I can bleed my heart just to see you smile. I
will love you till the end of days.
With a little poetry, I conclude this post..
"He is my world,
My world is blessed,
Millions of stars out there,
But I am settling with the sun,
Brightest of them all,
Home is where my fan is,
Or else I'm homeless.
You complete me,
Like a set of puzzle,
Like 2 pieces of lego,
Like a pen and its top,
Like shoe and laces,
Like a child loves his favourite person,
Like a bee loves a flower,
Like a mouse loves cheese,
You unlock a whole new world for me."
P.S:
This is in response to Indispire Edition 89.
