In The Classroom Of Life

My words are a piece of legacy I'll leave behind. The goal isn’t to live forever, but to create something that will. This blog is a part of self-discovery & a symbol of my passion for writing. This is my space - beyond the judgement of others. Here, I dabble mostly in romance, poetry, haiku, shayari, book reviews, social issues that bother me and topics that add value to life with a dash of personal insights about life - an entertaining fiction itself! Happy reading :)

Thursday, 14 September 2023

Book Review #146 : A Man from Motihari

Book: A Man from Motihari

Author: Abdullah Khan

Publisher: Ebury Press

Price: Rs 399; Pages: 304

"A Man from Motihari", Abdullah Khan's second book, is a very compelling read thanks to its frank honesty, sincere curiosity, and willingness to admit vulnerability.

An intriguing premise for "A Man from Motihari" is that it tells the tale of a struggling author named Aslam who is led to believe that he is a manifestation of the well-known British author George Orwell. In the story, Aslam struggles to deal with the emergence of right-wing political forces in India while also falling in love with an American actress named Jessica.

In 2010, Khan was given a project by a Bangladeshi newspaper to write a narrative about Orwell's relationship with Motihari, a small hamlet in northern Bihar where Mahatma Gandhi first tried out his non-violent satyagraha philosophy.

Khan also included details from his own life in the book. The author was born in a small village close to Motihari in Bihar, just like Aslam Sher Khan, the main character of his book. The author received his early education at madrasas and schools with an Urdu language curriculum, similar to Aslam's older brother Waseem.

Khan tries to fit a lot into his story, including caste and class politics, religion, a failed marriage, actual political events and their effects on Muslims in India, a majority rule government, and the struggles of an aspiring writer and certain supernatural elements. With the narrative of the story swinging between multiple issues and themes, the geography of the plot oscillates between the protagonist and the author’s hometown, Motihari, to several small towns, Mumbai and eventually ends up in the US.

The novel weaves imagination and straightforward writing together to create a gripping account of new India from the viewpoint of a Muslim middle-class man. Until Aslam learns to change his perspective over the course of his life, describing the lifestyles of Muslim communities, the caste system in the community, and its impact on status, relationships, and place of worship were the key variables that determined the course of his life in various ways.

Abdullah is a great storyteller. Aslam experiences a lengthy, arduous journey throughout the book, punctuated by ephemeral moments of love, connection, and joy. This book offers a realistic view of the structure, conditioning, and methods of operation of society and if you appreciate reading books about Indian tiny villages and religion and sub-castes determining dynamics of social connections, you will enjoy this book. The use of sociopolitical elements or the spooky vibe might improve it further. I appreciate the author's straightforward style, and the impactful first-person narrative. The characters' gradual deconstruction and the numerous facets of their personalities that emerged as I read the novel helped me identify with the characters.

In conclusion, "A Man from Motihari" is a must-read for everyone who wants to comprehend the opposing perspective of an aspirant youth who is trying to construct a life while having several social structure and identity disadvantages. There aren't many modern English-language authors that can provide such a rich viewpoint with such a realistic plot. The majority of the stories coming out of Bihar focus on politics, caste conflicts, and horrible narcissistic individuals. Finding a tale that so beautifully defies Bihari prejudices is energizing.

A very fast paced novel and an interesting plot make"A Man from Motihari" a remarkably absorbing read. A book to remember totally! This novel should be adapted to a movie.

Rating – 4/5

Wednesday, 20 July 2022

Book Review #145 : Unstoppable

From Olympians and academicians to musicians and environmentalists, “Unstoppable: How Youth Icons Achieve Extraordinary Things”, written by debutant author-podcaster Manthan Shah chronicles the inspiring journeys of 40 Indian youth icons who overcame their struggles to create something of value.

With in-depth interviews and analysis of what makes champions tick, Manthan in his book, identifies the attributes that make these achievers who they are — grit, courage, determination, creativity and empathy.

The book comprises of ten chapters talking about the above traits associated with their success. In each chapter, comprehensive mental models and insights from hundreds of books, research papers, and journal articles are cited that knit their stories together. Finally, you will also find action points, small exercises, and key learnings from industry leaders along with bits from author’s personal life stories that help you craft POA to achieve your own goals.

“Unstoppable” is truly a unique inspirational book that covers motivational stories of 40 youth icons that I could relate to. This book is inspiring, motivating and can craft the inanimate to life. The author has exemplified many stories which cover subjects like hard work, team work, sacrifice, self-confidence, modesty, dreaming big, perseverance, positivity, courage and dealing with adversity. The book is an easy read, that’s packed with a lot of punch. There are many nuggets of wisdom and insights interspersed throughout that will help the reader replicate their success.

The language used is a fine balance between rich and simple sentences. I strongly recommend this book to every person who wants to get a fresh take on the challenges, struggles, ways to succeed and meaning of success.

I would suggest you to read this book at a slow pace so that you can introspect and think through the stories in this book to make your life better. It is a book that guides you while being packed with honest and insightful perspectives.

This book is a powerhouse of knowledge and surely deserves a place in every bookshelf. This is a book that has to be read again and again to sharpen and educate our mind into creating something extraordinary from ordinary circumstances and preparing a ‘plan of action’ for achieving one’s goals.

Verdict: Amazing from start to finish. This is a book that everyone can relate to and is a brilliant guide to self-introspection and be ‘unstoppable’!

Rating- 5/5

Review copy courtesy – PR, Penguin Random House India.

Sunday, 12 June 2022

Book Review #144 : Rohzin

A book of eight chapters, Rohzin by Rahman Abbas is a veritable feast for the mind. In Urdu ‘Rohzin” is a word that the author coins to signify the souls of people hurt by witnessing the betrayal of their parents with their partners. What ensues is a story of love, lust, belonging, rejection and identity spread lush across the city of Bombay.

Abbas wrote the novel in Urdu, originally. Rohzin, the author’s fourth novel, has been translated into English by Sabika Abbas Naqvi! The book is indeed modern in the sense of questioning contemporary lifestyles. Thanks to this book, Abbas won the Sahitya Academi Award, India’s most prestigious literary award, in 2018. In Rahman Abbas’ “Rohzin”, Mumbai serves many functions, from a watery canvas floating the boat of first love to a cesspool of emotional traumas. Speaking of imagination and reality readily transmigrating into each other’s realms, Rahman Abbas’s writing is a delightful craft.

'Rohzin' follows the story of the protagonist, Asrar, who comes to Mumbai. It is through his eyes that the author describes the hitherto-unknown aspects of the maximum city Mumbai — the unseen colours and secrets of the city’s underbelly. It is also the story of two lovers, Asrar and Hina, which begins abruptly and ends tragically. The two fall in love and become a couple. Quite obviously, their relationship bridges social disparities. They are Muslims from very different backgrounds. Islam defines cultural dimensions of their identities, but not their identity as such. In their daily lives, they are guided by curiosity rather than Koranic doctrine. The novel frequently segues into philosophical conversations about sex and strictures that may limit human experience, and the question of whether one can liberate oneself from civilisation.

The writer addresses upfront the role identity plays in triggering external and internal crises. The average Indian wears a multi-layered identity, constructed from historic and ongoing migrations. Through history, dream and surrealist asides, Abbas weaves in legends about the goddess, myths surrounding the seven islands that make up Mumbai, and a foretold catastrophe. The vision of Konkan is juxtaposed with scenes of reality and fantasy jostling together in the deep urban underbelly of Bombay.

What makes the read worthwhile is the interlacing of closely observed lives in contemporary Mumbai. The novel also recalls the trauma of the 1992-93 riots and subsequent bomb blasts, the Dockyards tragedy of 1944, the custodial death of Khwaja Yunus in 2003, even the future terror attack of 2008. Some of these events muddy the timeline of the novel, at a few places, disorienting readers, like me, who are familiar with the city’s history.

Rohzin takes you to multiple journeys and in each journey, you would have wished that it never ceases. The author portrays life in a fascinating and challenging multi-cultural environment. Rahman Abbas's beautiful crafted story-writing captivates you every moment and is definitely worth a read!

Ratings – 5/5

Review copy courtesy – PR, Penguin Random House India.

Wednesday, 4 May 2022

Virtual Classroom – Future of Global Education

The Covid-19 pandemic taught us all the importance of two things – a. how precious life is and, b. anything and everything can be accomplished from the comfort of your home, including learning and education! With the power of internet and wide usage of smart phones, it was fascinating to see how everything became accessible to us, at our fingertips, while being stuck and locked up in our houses, amidst a global pandemic!

There has been a radical shift in how education was perceived traditionally – the usual four walls of the classroom, chalk and black board concept, when we were hit by the pandemic. Now, the physical classroom is not just the only way to learn. Learning has revolutionized and this era has left behind the notion of a typical classroom. Popularity of eLearning platforms like Udemy, Coursera, SkillShare, edX, Udacity skyrocketed in the past couple of years and will only further accelerate in future! Following are six reasons why I believe eLearning and virtual classrooms are the future of education –

1. Flexibility & Time/cost saving

Digital learning gives the learner the freedom to be absolutely anywhere in the world and access quality knowledge, hone his/her skills, simply by using the internet anytime. It is also easy for the teachers or subject experts to set their own pace of teaching and schedule the classes as per their convenience. eLearning enables so much autonomy for all. An added benefit - the commute time is saved which can definitely be used in creating something concrete. The cost of travelling is saved too, which is effective on the pockets of young learners.

2. Easy to pick and choose distance courses

If there’s a skill or a subject one needs expertise in, one can simply take up a distance course from a national or international university, learn at own pace and master it. The internet if used well, has infinite skills and knowledge to offer. Majority of schools, colleges and universities are offering online versions of programs that are taught on their campuses. This unique advantage makes the learning experience so customizable and learner-centric.

3. 24x7 Everyday Accessible Knowledge/Revisit lectures

Knowledge when accessible makes the learner feel so empowered. A typical classroom is distant from many resources. This gap is filled with the wonders of technology and internet. If a student misses any class or is absent due to some reason, there is always the benefit to revisit the uploaded lectures later. A typical classroom does not allow this benefit.

4. Environment friendly

Digital learning saves the students from carrying heavy bags, notebooks. Less requirement of paper implies less cutting of rubber trees. This way, it is easy on the environment since there is less usage of paper when learning is online. All the resources can simply be replaced by a tablet or laptop in a digital format.

5. Easier to visualize in an interactive mode of learning

There’s only so much an instructor can do to make the students visualize and comprehend concepts on the blackboard. Certain concepts need more than a blackboard to be comprehended. Use of versatile tools like slides, PowerPoint, videos, audios, pictures make learning interactive, engaging and interesting.

6. Meets the need of on-demand continuous learning

In this age and time, gaining knowledge and upskilling is a continuous need. Gaining new skills allows professionals to perform new responsibilities and tasks at workplace more efficiently. Digital learning as a tool can also enable an ambitious employee to earn an additional degree online and become more skillful and do so at his/her own pace. This will enhance their chances of getting hired or promoted!

With the landscape of education completely transformed and still changing, digital learning is the future and is here to stay. eLearning has mitigated several issues that restricted people’s growth and learning earlier. It saves time and money. It is environment friendly and promotes personalized learning. The influence of digitization has reshaped the face of education and opened new possibilities for learning. We are witnessing a revolution. Currently, online learning seamlessly blends images, audios, clips to make learning more attractive. But the future route to education will definitely involve use of technologies like artificial intelligence (AI), augmented and virtual reality to play a huge role. To conclude, we have a lot to look up to in the EdTech industry to transform and reform in the coming decade. And if you are the one walking hand in hand with the fast-changing world and the innovations it offers, you will reach your full potential, thus guarantying evolution, growth and success.

Monday, 21 March 2022

Book Review #143 : The Tiger’s Pause

Title: The Tiger’s Pause: The Untold Story of Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar’s Peace Efforts in Sri Lanka

Author: Swami Virupaksha

Publisher: Ebury Press/Penguin Random House

Pages: 208

Price: Rs 399

The book, “The Tiger’s Pause” chronicles the story of Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar’s peace efforts in Sri Lanka. The author is a word smith. You can feel and visualise the heart wrenching events, many of us have not seen, as he narrates them excellently. Loved how he relayed the nail biting facts, laced with witty & thrilling incidents and deeply meaningful insights interwoven effortlessly on the 26 year long civil war in Sri Lanka. I could feel the presence of the Sri Sri Ravi Shankar and his quest and actions for peace in Sri Lanka, as if I were watching a movie.

It's a gripping first-hand account, especially for those who grew up in the Indian sub-continent in the 80s through the late 90s, like me. The longest civil war to occur yet there are very little insights on what actually happened on the grounds. This book breaks the silence and helps us in exploring the ground realities of the civil war and the work done by known humanitarian and peace maker, Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar ji.

The book is 'unputdownable'. Every war story is thrilling. This book though adds a flavor to that thrill - of conviction in peace. Usually, peace efforts are restricted to board rooms in secure zones. This book is an open story of attempts made to forge peace in Sri Lanka and how Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar almost got abducted. This book presents in great detail an unparalleled effort to bring peace - not just as a negotiation, but with a transformational approach on the ground. The style of writing is simple and storytelling is powerful. I almost felt like I was physically there and experiencing all that was being described. So realistic yet filled with so much wisdom.

I only wish there was more about the post-war effort of rebuilding and sustaining peace. Would expect a sequel to the book. This masterpiece is a must read for anyone interested in geo politics and for anyone who believes in peace.

Review copy courtesy – PR, Penguin Random House India.

Monday, 28 February 2022

She Is A Mirror!

DISCLAIMER- Not every woman is necessarily a reflection of how you treat her. Sometimes you can treat her like a queen and she will not return the favor. Sometimes you can love her deeply and not be loved in return. Some things are out of your control and there is nothing you can do about it. Also, there is no justification for abuse, cruelty, cheating, deceiving, manipulating or lying. AT ALL. From any gender.

The way you treat a woman will often reflect in how she behaves. It just does. It’s almost as if women take the form and shape of a mirror that will reflect you in ways you’ve never imagined possible.

The honey moon phase is when most men do anything in their power to contribute to her happiness and peace of mind. No, her happiness is not your responsibility, it is hers. BUT, you can either add to it or disrupt her peace. This is when you compliment her, invest in the relationship with your time and effort, surprise her by noticing subtle things about her, support her goals, embrace her flaws and differences, try your very best to work out any challenges life throws at you etc. This is when she reflects back the loving, caring side of you. She will thank you for how you treat her with her sincere laughter, cuddles, hugs, loyalty, honesty and lots of love (even sex, for that matter). She will do ANYTHING for you. Literally.

As time goes by, you get comfortable and start settling down with her. You're together, there's no need for chasing anymore. Her heart and trust belongs to you and so does yours. There's nothing wrong with getting comfortable and settling down. By any means, it's a natural, healthy phase. What's not healthy is that you go from giving 100% in a relationship to giving 50%. You start showing her the man you really are. The loving, caring side starts to fade and your selfish, egotistic, career focused and tunnel visioned side comes out to play. She's had her portion of light, it's time to give her some darkness and see how well she handles it. The thing is, she always handles it better than you expect her to.

And, because she's so strong and can take anything, you start throwing more shit at her. It's almost as if you're testing the waters to see how far you can go and how much you can hurt her without any consequences. Well, it takes a hell of a long time for her to start treating you the way you're treating her.

When you begin disliking how she behaves is when she's finally taking the bull by the horns and placing herself as a mirror right in front of you. Yet, you still somehow miss it. You can't seem to notice how and why the relationship is changing until it's too late and she's already moved on. But the signs are always there, you're just choosing not to see them.

The truth is, she's showing you those parts of you that you have no desire to deal with, work upon and improve. You no longer have a desire to become a better version of yourself because she's yours and, unless you've set your eyes on another woman already, there's nothing motivating you to work on yourself.

You begin complaining she's too much to handle. She's giving you too much shit. She's too frustrated, irritated, frigid, miserable and clingy. She's not playful and sexy anymore, she's not passionate and thrilling. False.

She's too much to handle because you haven't learned how to handle yourself. She's giving you too much shit because you haven't given her anything else to reciprocate. She's frustrated, irritated, frigid, miserable and clingy because you're lazy, comfortable, ignorant, blind and distant. She's not playful, passionate and thrilling anymore because you don't even want to get to know her mind and body anymore. That's how a woman becomes a reflection of how you treat her.

Also, at times, we may feel the person who is inflicting torture upon us is unaware. But, no, they are very well aware & have a self analysis of who & what they are. Yet, they always play the victim card; however, the woman will refuse to be your reflection then - because enough is enough & she no longer wants to be a wrong doer like you & be vengeful. Then she walks away gracefully. To never return.

P.S: A man can totally become a reflection of how you treat him, too.

Wednesday, 9 February 2022

Book Review #142 : When Mommy Was a Little Girl

Edited by: Pranav Kumar Singh

Illustrated by: Abhilasha Khatri

Recommended Age: 7+ years

Published by: Ponytale Books

Price: Rs. 299/-

‘When Mommy Was a Little Girl’ is an anthology of relatable stories of mommies when they were little girls. This book has delightful incidents that bring alive the childhood of 15 mommies – how they grew up, mischiefs, siblings’ bond, their learnings and all the trouble they gave their parents. The stories are accompanied with cute illustrations by Abhilasha Khatri that add to the reading experience. This anthology is written as a tribute to the modern classic 'When Daddy Was A Little Boy' by Soviet Author Alexander Raskin, which told us about what a Daddy did when he was a little boy.

It has a beautifully illustrated book cover that features mommy's different aspects of life. The fascinating stories of mommies as little girls take you to different parts of India and give you glimpses of their childhood, along with capturing the essence of growing up in metro cities as well as in villages. The stories are sweet, nostalgic and take you back to revisit a world of innocence. As a reader, I could identify with many of the escapades, mischiefs, pranks and episodes with my siblings and childhood friends in the tales. Some stories can be good conversation starters when you read them to your kids.

Kudos to all the authors for bringing out such a refreshing book with honest, silly yet heart-warming stories. There’s no repetition throughout the book and each story has new emotions related to it. I appreciate the use of easy language and a game at the end. It's a good bedtime, light read and the illustrations will keep the children interested & glued to the book. Recommended not just for children, but for everyone - because who doesn’t like a walk down the memory lane? An enchanting read, indeed.

Rating: 5/5

Friday, 31 December 2021

Book Review #141 : Forgiveness Is a Choice

Imprint: Ebury Press

Published: Dec/2021

ISBN: 9780143450573

Length: 224 Pages

MRP: ₹299.00

The words such as forgiveness and peace have always represented abstract ideas and thoughts, something to be understood by the intellect rather than a viable experience. Kia, however, provides a more integrated wisdom that allows moving such concepts from the head to the heart. A potentially life changing approach with a deeper understanding of why I suffer, and how to gently let go, and later the realization of the true nature of things is presented in this beautiful book.

Forgiveness, a priceless gift from the beloved presence dwelling within our hearts, is like a soothing balm for healing all our wounds. The pain we feel when we lose our home or other material possessions. The pain we experience in our body when we face a physical illness. The pain of separation from a loved one – from loss due to death of the body or the death of a relationship – so that our beloved is no longer part of our everyday social fabric. The pain we feel when we believe we have disappointed someone we love by our actions, or when we feel a sense of shame or regret and judge ourselves as failures.

We need the comforting presence of forgiveness to dry all our tears. Whenever we feel lost, confused, lonely, upset or disconnected, a steady practice of forgiveness anchors us in the truth of our being—a changeless, timeless, deathless, and birth less reality that is pure peace, love, and joy. In our fast-paced lives mired in space, time, and form where the only thing that is constant is change, forgiveness helps us shift our perspective, so we see our situation differently. Herein lies the true gift and healing that forgiveness offers. It is a medicine that we take and allow it to work inside us at a pace that is comfortable for us; we cannot and must not rush this process. However, it is our choice that only we can make. Only we have the power to choose forgiveness. While it may seem that we are forgiving another person or situation, in reality, it is we that are in most need of forgiveness.

The conscious choice made to not allow an unpleasant event to become frozen in our minds and hearts, but, to allow all the painful emotions to flush up in a safe space; the anger, the sadness, the hurt, the confusion – all must be bought into awareness. Only then can we go deeper into the peace, love, and joy that are buried underneath. This inner sanctuary of peace, love, and light can never be hurt or taken away from us. It is our treasure to claim hidden right underneath all the pain and darkness. And forgiveness can light our way, so we may fully allow this healing to truly wash over us, so we may feel whole once more – perhaps even stronger and more resilient than before. When we begin to practice forgiveness, the world becomes a better place to live. Forgiveness is essential to releasing fear and living in peace. In fact, forgiveness is the single most important thing we can do to create a life of love and happiness. This is the essence and teaching of this book.

This book is a practical guide to forgiveness. It reveals how we unconsciously carry old wounds into our daily lives, and then guides us through a simple process for identifying and releasing these emotions. An everyday approach to identifying hurts and angers in the moment and releasing them through forgiveness allows us to lead happier and stress-reduced lives.

The usage of simple words and lucid language helps to maintain coherence throughout the book. It is a manual for hard times - a gem, indeed! Anytime I'm unsettled, I know, I will turn to this book to feel grounded again. An inspiring book you MUST get. Also, a worthy gift you can give to anyone you love and care for.

Review copy courtesy – PR, Penguin Random House India.

Sunday, 3 October 2021

Book Review #140 : Written in the Stars

Book Name: Written in the Stars

Author: Divya Anand

Pages: 270

Genre: Romance Novel, Fiction

Price: 225 INR

Set in Bangalore, ‘Written in the Stars’ has a lot of interesting elements that bring the story beautifully together. The challenges of a start-up, the process of product design, everyday office politics, and unrequited love make it seem like just another day at work. However, the horoscope element gives the story a neat, unique, unexpected twist. Girl-bonding is the best thing at the centre of all this madness.

This book is a romantic comedy about whether life and love are shaped by your choices or are written in the stars. Sitara, the protagonist works for a start-up and is almost living on an edge to prove her worth for a promotion. And how she uses the marketing head Abhimanyu Singh's obsession with astrology to her advantage and later falls in love with him. Sitara must now choose what she really wants, a promotion or true love. The story revolves about Sitara's professional and personal life and how she balances the two. The book gives a real feel of corporate culture, over ambitious people, politics, love, hatred, deadlines everything you can think of.

Author, Divya Anand has scripted the character Sitara in such a manner that every working girl can relate to it. The hassle of work-life balance, friends family balance, and boss, and employee balance. You get to see all the aspects of the urban woman in the book in a sync manner. The love aspect of the character is explored yet it is so subtle in the storyline. Sitara’s love interest, Abhimanyu in the story is adorable. Kavya is the darling friend we all need in our lives and Inaya is the all-knowing cute niece anyone would want to have around. Abhimanyu Singh, despite his strange astrology obsession, is irresistible. His self-assuredness and chiseled features make you fall head over heels in love with him.

‘Written in the Stars’ is a light-hearted, humorous book. I totally admire the author's sense of humour. In many places you won't be able to stop yourself from laughing out loud. This book deals with every emotion and relationship so beautifully.

The astrology angle is interesting and adds the freshness required to help this book stand out from others in the genre. Haven't read such a relatable and laugh-out-loud funny book in ages. After months of working from home, I felt the familiar madness, tension and hilarity of office life - as if I were back in its midst.

Verdict: Divya has done a great job of creating characters, dialogues and adding a pinch of drama to the romance. The language is easily understood and the book is just the right length. The novel clearly picturizes today's corporate world in a very simple language. I always look for a positive ending and this book has given me the one. With a proper closure and happy ending, this book has won my heart. I strongly recommend this book as it is enjoyable, humorous and a fun read.

Rating: 4.5/5

Review copy courtesy - author.

Sunday, 5 September 2021

Book Review #139 : Atomic Habits

In my humble opinion, this book is so good that I would like to file it under the elite category of books that can actually change your life!

In this book published by Penguin Random House India, the author focuses on “atomic habits” – a term that he uses to describe small improvements made on a daily basis so that small wins and tiny breakthroughs add up to noticeable change that can be celebrated. He builds out a nice 4-point framework for building habits and explains some good practices built around behavioral trigger that can help us reshape our lives.

Atomic Habits is a great book if you are looking for some prescriptive which will lay out a bunch of do’s and don’ts for creating new habits and breaking old ones. It is full of directly actionable advice. James Clear — presents in this book, very compelling arguments and examples from his in-depth research spanning multiple areas like sports, arts, science, business, history etc., to pick interesting nuggets that serve to push his framework. And his frameworks are very practical, with a good mix of examples and some thought-provoking life philosophies as well.

What is the reasoning behind the idea that tiny improvements made consistently are far more meaningful in the long run? The author offers a useful analogy. He writes, “Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement. The same way that money multiplies through compound interest, the effects of your habits multiply as you repeat them.”

It is not just pages of pep talk stuck together. It offers a step-by-step plan for building habits that can serve us for a lifetime. The author translates research into everyday language that can be grasped quickly. Another valuable suggestion is the practice of habit stacking, wherein you “tie your desired behavior into something you already do each day.” The author also suggests using habit trackers and accountability partners to help you. Perhaps the best way to use this book is to study the main principles, and not take the recommendations too literally. People live under different circumstances, and what autonomy means to one person may not mean the same to another. Do not miss the appendix because it has pointers for additional reading, and links to online resources for readers who are keen to understand how the ideas in this book work!

Overall, I recommend ‘Atomic Habits’ because of the way it blends in some practical tips with powerful stories that align with those tips. As someone who has been trying to change habits since quite a few years (and failing miserably), I concede that this book helps me take my efforts a bit more seriously. This definitely helped me not only increase awareness in matters like health & fitness and hobbies, but also made me create some systems around these that brought to life some intentionality into how I approach these. That, to me, is the biggest take-away, from this book. I’d strongly encourage you to pick up a copy and read the rest for yourself. If you’re struggling with your habits, this is very much a book for you.

Ratings: 4.8/5

Saturday, 27 February 2021

Book Review #138 : The Right Escape

If you love to read small poetry or micro tales, this book is for you! This book is inspiring, relatable and profound.

A published book in your hands is someone's hard work, sweat and efforts. Hajra is a beautiful soul and it shows through her writing. This book is a perfect cosy winter read for a sore heart. Needless to say, I was baffled with what I found folded into the pages. I was expecting an inspirational slightly tacky read much like how I viewed poetry prior to this. What I found was vulnerability, startling bluntness, and a pure and raw story laced into the pages!

The poems are sweet and idealistic. Overall, I really enjoyed this compilation of poems and would totally recommend to anyone who is looking to heal from a bad experience in life. I do not subscribe to the belief that poetry must be difficult to be meaningful, hence, I truly enjoyed this book.

VERDICT – ‘The Right Escape’, is a ‘modern classic’, worthy to be read out loud, written in texts to loved ones, and learnt by heart. The reminder to appreciate yourself and to embrace love, separation and the process of self-discovery is timeless.

RATING – 4/5

Tuesday, 14 July 2020

Book Review #137 : yesterday i was the moon

It's been quite the minute since I last read a poetry collection, so when my eyes landed on this book on Amazon - I was beyond keen on diving in.

‘yesterday i was the moon’ is a collection of poetry by noor unnahar - it explores courage, self-love, culture and the struggles of making peace with your heart and art. it contains black & white photographs paired with poetry pieces; giving it a photo diary feels.

I think I'll be revisiting this book again, it's so beautifully written. I least expected this but each & every line was soul-touching. I'd recommend this to anyone who is remotely interested in reading poetry, it's strange to see that the book is not hugely recognized, but it doesn't matter, as long as it touches the hearts of people it comes to hold off.

The book does not revolve around a particular theme, rather it covers the art, home, society, courage, strength, acceptance and culture. This is written with emotion, honesty and poignancy.

However, the book has more drawings in it than any other poetry book that I have read till date, which means it is very short on content. It’s only 160 pages and has drawings on every 3rd page (which makes it more personal, and almost like a journal). BUTTTTT, I wanted more content.

Reading Noor's words, you can smell the scent of love, passion, anger, and truth on every page. Her poems will speak to your soul like they were written for you.

Ratings: 4.5/5 (I craved more poetry!)

Sunday, 12 July 2020

A Work In Progress!

We were supposed to have it all figured out by now, weren’t we?

We were supposed to know exactly what we wanted and exactly how to get it by now, isn’t that what we were told about being an adult? And then life happened.

As we got older we slowly realized that 95% of what we thought we were supposed to have figured out by now wasn’t anything close to what life is really about. Because the lives we are living are not finite. They are not written in stone. They are not stagnant. They are not about breaking through a certain threshold.

Our lives are one massive, gigantic, and sometimes overwhelming work in progress. There will never come a time when we are complete and finished human beings because the state of being complete and finished is the antithesis of what being human is all about.

Life is malleable. It is constantly throwing new things our way. Life is more a continuous learning experience than anything else. And, this is the way life will always be.

But this is not about how nothing is ever good enough or things are never finished. Products are finished. Books are finished. That project at work that everyone hated was finished.

There will never be a time in this life where everything makes complete sense. There will never be a time in this life where we won’t struggle at least a little bit. There will never be a time in this life where we are finished working on ourselves. There will never be a time in this life where we have everything figured out. These things will never come to pass because existing consciously necessitates work.

There will always be things that we can get better at. There will always be things that challenge us. There will always be mistakes that we want to correct.

Though the idea of every person on this earth being a continual work in progress may seem daunting, it’s important to understand that this will always be the case. There is no finished state to a human being. And it is the act of understanding this reality that keeps us open to life and the possibilities that come from accepting the nature of being human.

The second we feel like we have everything figured out is the second that we no longer give life the chance to change our minds or enlighten us. The second we feel like we are no longer a work in progress is the second we stop making progress.

And the most progress is often made when we are among our hopes and dreams and side projects and things that inspire us and things we want to change for the better. It is among these things where life exists in its purest form. And it is among these things where we usually realize we are a work in progress and we will always be a work in progress.

As unsettling as this idea might be, it is surely one of life’s most important challenges to understand that everything about who we are is not finite and will continue to evolve and grow as time continues to pass. It would probably be a much easier existence if this wasn’t the case, but the world would be substantially worse off if our lives weren’t a continual work in progress.

Thursday, 2 July 2020

My Advice To Indian Teenage Girls!

I wish I knew some of these things in my teens or early twenties, my life would have been completely different. It takes a great deal of understanding to assimilate this post. I hope it helps!

1. Don't be like men. You are different. You are unique. You are a female and there is a difference. What do you do when you see pigs lying in the gutter? Will you go lie with them or you clean the place and make it habitable for the rest of you? Trying to imitate men in the name of equality is not a way to be.

2. If you want to, imitate good men, men that are a good mix of masculine and feminine, men that you want to be the father of your kids. Would you be proud of a father who drinks, smokes, is always concerned about his looks, men who belittle other men, is critical of everything and is financially irresponsible or too much into money, career, competition etc. Don't be like men, be a woman which men want to be like, who is a safe place for men to come to when they are done fighting their battles, women whom even men look up to.

3. Ladies, learn to distinguish between different kinds of attention. You don't want to be someone's past time, you should be someone people show reverence for. When they see you, they are filled with love and respect. They want their daughters to be like you. They want to have you not just in their beds but in their homes, in their hearts, in their life forever.

4. As a woman, do not pull others down on your way up. When you reach to the top, give your hand to pull other women up. A community of empowered women is much needed to raise the collective consciousness of the society as a whole. Every time you belittle a woman, you expose an insecure part of yourself, learn to work on it.

5. A major reason for attracting toxic partners and tolerate shit is your deep seated insecurities. Your self worth should not depend on how beautiful and successful you are, how many men find you beautiful, how popular you are. Just your existence is worth a million bucks, you don't need to be “something” to be worthy of love and respect. Do not tolerate disrespect, abuse, toxicity to compensate for your imagined shortcomings.

6. Acknowledge the quiet guy sitting in the corner who you think is boring and under confident. He could be the one for you, give him a chance. Try to communicate with all kinds of people, know them, first impression is often the wrong impression.

7. Shed all the concepts that the society taught you. Unlearn. One of which is a concept of “independence”. No one is completely independent, we are all inter-dependent on each other. Having an income is great but don't try to do anything and everything all by yourself, it is exhausting, ask for help whenever you need. Feeling unsafe? Ask your brother to drop you, want to lift an heavy object? Ask your husband, men opening doors for you? Appreciate. Asking for help will not take away your independence. Similarly, don't misuse your financial independence as an excuse to feel superior, being rebellious, immature and outspoken. Learn to use your intuition and wisdom in every situation. Learn balance of everything!

8. Don't tolerate mediocre things in life. Recognize the divinity within you. It has nothing to with size, color of your skin, clothes you wear, feminine is innate to our existence, our bodies are perfect ground for seeds of femininity to sprout, when in tune with our divinity, we are more at peace, more patient, more grounded, sensual, full of love, compassion, empathy. People can't help getting drawn towards us. No, it is not submission, not helplessness, not cowardice rather opposite, it is empowering, it is liberating, it is fearless way of living.

9. When in self doubt, look into the mirror and for once just once try to look beyond the physical, beyond your thin hairs and thick nose, beyond your saggy skin and bat wings, beyond your love handles and thunder thighs. Beyond the superficial color your skin, you are a divine being radiating colorful lights, encompassing the entire universe within you. You are just that, nothing less. See it, embrace it. Be it.

Love.